Addiction

Anxiety

Body Image

Why is body image so important? 

A negative body image is directly related to self esteem; the more negative the perception of our bodies, the more negative we feel about ourselves.  Body Image is the mental picture a person has of her /his body as well as their thoughts, feelings, judgments, sensations, awareness and behaviors.  Body Image is developed through interactions with people and their social world. Body Image influences behavior, self esteem and our psyche. When we feel bad about our bodies our satisfaction and mood decreases significantly. Our sense of self becomes unhealthy as we constantly try to push, reshape or remake our bodies.  We can lose confidence in our abilities, our sexuality, our careers and our relationships.


Extreme body image disturbances can lead to body dysmorphic disorder, eating disorders and severe depression. I am very aware that the alliance between therapist and client, rather than a specific approach or technique, is the most critical factor for successful therapy.  In addition to creating rapport with my clients, I also provide education, insight and a healing environment, allowing clients to rectify their faulty thought patterns, fill in developmental deficits and internalize missing psychological functions.

Co-parenting

Couples Counseling

My focus is facilitating each partner’s capacity to attune to and support the other’s personal growth. My work is about fostering the revealing of one’s self through an expression of feelings and thoughts, without blaming or accusing.  I teach clients how to listen more effectively and calmly while trying to not take what is said personally.  In this process clients learn to develop interest and a curious state of mind, to ask questions designed to understand the partner’s experience. I encourage them to do their best by putting themselves in each other’s shoes, responding with empathy while still holding onto themselves. 

I have worked extensively with couples across the lifespan. I am certified in administering Prepare /Enrich Inventories designed to facilitate in the exploration of areas of communication, conflict resolution, spiritual beliefs, finances, parenting styles, sexual expectations and family of origin issues. The Prepare /Enrich program satisfies premarital requirements for many churches. The inventories include Prepare, for premarital couples, Prepare MC, for premarital couples with children, Prepare CC for cohabitating couples, Enrich, for marriage enrichment or marriage counseling and Mate for couples over the age of 50, getting married, seeking marriage counseling or going through life transitions such as retirement.

The following is an exerpt from an article written by Jaleh Weber published on Yahoo! Contributor Network:

Getting married is a big step in a relationship. A great way to ensure success in a marriage is to get premarital counseling before getting married. Premarital counseling will give the couple an opportunity to express their wants, needs and to work through any possible issues that might be of concern. To help understand what premarital counseling is all about I have interviewed Licensed Marriage Family Therapist Shannon Brynes.

Tell me a little bit about yourself. 


"My name is Shannon Byrnes and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a broad range of experience in private practice and clinical settings. I currently practice in Los Angeles and Old Town Pasadena. My background is strongly rooted in psychoanalysis and I recognize that growth and transformation result from increased awareness and insight. I believe everyone can define and experience themselves in new and different ways through the development of a therapeutic relationship, and by exploring the process of reflection. When clients understand themselves more fully and experience themselves differently they begin to develop a sense of agency; or rational conscious choice."

"I specialize in personal growth with adolescents, individuals and couples struggling with life transitions, depression, anxiety, trauma, body image, addiction and grief. I teach wellness education, parenting skills, and facilitate women and adolescent groups. In addition, I enjoy supervising highly skilled and insightful interns."

What is premarital counseling? 


"Premarital counseling facilitates intimate exploration into relationships. It provides a safe and nurturing environment to build on strengths while respectfully and lovingly addressing inherent challenges and differences."

What are the benefits of premarital counseling? 


"Premarital counseling can foster trust and provide a solid foundation that is necessary for building a successful relationship. My focus is to facilitate the capacity of each partner to attune and support the other's personal growth. Our work is about fostering communication and revealing one's self through an expression of feelings and thoughts, without assigning blame."

What are some things a therapist talks about when they are doing premarital counseling? 


"As a Marriage Family Therapist I am very mindful and aware of how to explore relationship strengths and deepen awareness and connection. I encourage clients to discuss individual and shared goals, and explore expectations about their premarital therapy. It is important to explore a variety of areas including communication, conflict resolution, spirituality, finances, family of origin, and parenting."

How often do couples decide not to marry after going through premarital counseling? 


"Premarital counseling and couples counseling provides the opportunity to deepen intimacy, emotional connection and acceptance. In my experience, premarital counseling rarely illuminates the need for separation. On the occasion that a couple does decide separation may be a beneficial option they often present with considerable conflict and may be seeking a safe place to mourn and accept that difficult decision."

What last advice would you like to leave for a couple that is considering premarital counseling? 


"I believe premarital counseling is a very loving and proactive approach to examining strengths and identifying potential areas of growth in the relationship. Premarital counseling can be an effective tool, designed to illuminate information that is very helpful for couples planning a life together."

Thank you Shannon Byrnes for the interview.

Counseling

Crisis

Depression

Eating Disorders

Fertility

Grief

Following a death or a loss such as divorce or loss of a job, you may feel empty and numb. You may notice physical changes such as trembling, nausea, dry mouth or trouble eating or sleeping. Feelings of deep sadness and sorrow are common.  You may feel anger and guilt.  The experience of grief can be affected by one’s history and support system.


No two people grieve the same or for the same time period. It is a process as unique as an individual person. As a therapist assisting in the process of grief, I am present to hold a space for healing as well as create a safe place for feelings to be expressed and explored. It is important that one allow the time to find their expression and what they feel and really need.

Groups

Individual

Marriage

Mindfulness

Psychoanalysis

Psychotherapy

What is Psychodynamic Therapy? Looking at the whole iceberg.


There are many different approaches to therapy. Some counselors focus on learning to think differently.  Others emphasize changing behavior while some work to relieve symptoms.  Psychodynamic therapy differs from other approaches with its focus on bringing unconscious material to light. It is based on the belief that our awareness is much like an iceberg, where we can see the portion that is above water, but what really constitutes the self is below the surface. This unknown dimension of our existence can influence our daily lives and sometimes this influence is painful and destructive.


Because of our unconscious patterns we try everything we can to change ourselves and fail, over and over again. Psychodynamic therapy works to uncover some of this unconscious material so that it can be integrated into a person’s life. The role of the therapist is to create the right environment and opportunity to work with the full range of a person’s experience, both conscious and unconscious for a more happy, healthy and fulfilling life. There are many changes people report when they persevere in the therapeutic process:


·        Come to see themselves differently
·        Accept their feelings more fully
·        Become more self confident and self directive
·        Adopt more realistic goals
·        Become more flexible in their perceptions
·       Change maladaptive behaviors
·        Become more accepting of others
·        Become more open to what is going on outside of themselves and what is going on inside themselves

Premarital

Shannon is certified by the Prepare /Enrich program to administer couples inventories for pre-marital, co-habitating couples and marital couples across the lifespan. She recently contributed to the publication “Making Marriage a Success.”

The Prepare /Enrich program satisfies premarital requirements for many churches. The inventories include Prepare, for premarital couples, Prepare MC, for premarital couples with children, Prepare CC for cohabitating couples, Enrich, for marriage enrichment or marriage counseling and Mate for couples over the age of 50, getting married, seeking marriage counseling or going through life transitions such as retirement.

The following is an exerpt from an article written by Jaleh Weber published on Yahoo! Contributor Network:

Getting married is a big step in a relationship. A great way to ensure success in a marriage is to get premarital counseling before getting married. Premarital counseling will give the couple an opportunity to express their wants, needs and to work through any possible issues that might be of concern. To help understand what premarital counseling is all about I have interviewed Licensed Marriage Family Therapist Shannon Brynes.

Tell me a little bit about yourself. 

 

"My name is Shannon Byrnes and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a broad range of experience in private practice and clinical settings. I currently practice in Los Angeles and Old Town Pasadena. My background is strongly rooted in psychoanalysis and I recognize that growth and transformation result from increased awareness and insight. I believe everyone can define and experience themselves in new and different ways through the development of a therapeutic relationship, and by exploring the process of reflection. When clients understand themselves more fully and experience themselves differently they begin to develop a sense of agency; or rational conscious choice."

"I specialize in personal growth with adolescents, individuals and couples struggling with life transitions, depression, anxiety, trauma, body image, addiction and grief. I teach wellness education, parenting skills, and facilitate women and adolescent groups. In addition, I enjoy supervising highly skilled and insightful interns."

What is premarital counseling? 


"Premarital counseling facilitates intimate exploration into relationships. It provides a safe and nurturing environment to build on strengths while respectfully and lovingly addressing inherent challenges and differences."

What are the benefits of premarital counseling? 


"Premarital counseling can foster trust and provide a solid foundation that is necessary for building a successful relationship. My focus is to facilitate the capacity of each partner to attune and support the other's personal growth. Our work is about fostering communication and revealing one's self through an expression of feelings and thoughts, without assigning blame."

What are some things a therapist talks about when they are doing premarital counseling? 


"As a Marriage Family Therapist I am very mindful and aware of how to explore relationship strengths and deepen awareness and connection. I encourage clients to discuss individual and shared goals, and explore expectations about their premarital therapy. It is important to explore a variety of areas including communication, conflict resolution, spirituality, finances, family of origin, and parenting."

How often do couples decide not to marry after going through premarital counseling? 


"Premarital counseling and couples counseling provides the opportunity to deepen intimacy, emotional connection and acceptance. In my experience, premarital counseling rarely illuminates the need for separation. On the occasion that a couple does decide separation may be a beneficial option they often present with considerable conflict and may be seeking a safe place to mourn and accept that difficult decision."

What last advice would you like to leave for a couple that is considering premarital counseling? 


"I believe premarital counseling is a very loving and proactive approach to examining strengths and identifying potential areas of growth in the relationship. Premarital counseling can be an effective tool, designed to illuminate information that is very helpful for couples planning a life together."

Thank you Shannon Byrnes for the interview. 

Stress

Therapy

Why do people enter therapy? 


Typically people enter therapy because something in their life hurts.  They are not quite sure what they want – but they know that life “is not suppose to be like this”. Perhaps it is their relationships, home or work life, their experience of their own feelings – or lack there of.  Often times people will come to therapy with the hope that the therapist can fix them, fix their problems or tell them what to do.  Therapy is really more than fixing problems.

Transition

Trauma

Understanding the manner in which early interpersonal relationships may impact the development of the brain areas involved in self regulation can greatly help us understand the effect of trauma on personality organization.  Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can present in one time experiences but more often complex PTSD presents in those who have had chronic exposure to overwhelming events or traumatic attachments.


Trauma is painful and attachment trauma is tragic; thus creating blockages to our capacity to adapt and connect to others.  As a healing professional I am called to bear witness and join in this pain to help people heal unresolved trauma and achieve lives not only free from symptoms but filled with a new sense of vitality and hope.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

I truly admire those willing to embark on the courageous journey toward transformation and am honored to stand beside them in their quest for happier, healthier, more productive and successful lives."   ~ Shannon Byrnes

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